Occasionally men ask me if they are 'reply guys' or how they can avoid being a 'reply guy' in a woman's mentions. My answer is always to consider these two things:
1. does the thing you're saying really need to be said, or are you simply trying to find an excuse to talk to the nice internet lady?
2. would the world be a better place if you just shared her post instead?
@phaedral@mastodon.social
If one wishes to avoid interaction one perhaps might avoid systems literally conceived and engineered to promote interaction. Such a person might choose instead their own comments-not-enabled-blog for sharing their thoughts without risk of unwanted comments. ymmv
@Asbestos @phaedral @girlonthenet
"The young white male founders of the giant tech platforms that dominate our lives today are not the primary targets (online or offline) of harassment, abuse, racism, sexual assault, violence, rape, revenge porn. So they didn’t, and they don’t, proactively design for the prevention of any of those things."
"Those of us who are at risk every single day—women, Black people, people of color, LGBTQ, the disabled—design safe spaces, and safe experiences."
@phaedral @girlonthenet I think the difference is: Do you want to talk about this topic, no matter if the person posting is a woman?
