Bethany Black in Elk: "Didn’t tell her the reason for the cP..."

Phoned mum earlier, I’m full of a cold again for the second time in 4 weeks after two people in a month surprised me with a hug.
“Can I give you a suggestion?” She asked and then without waiting said “have you thought about trying to boost your immune system?” I told her I’m doing everything that’s suggested and she said “so why’s your immune system so bad?” And distilled all the reasons down to “I’ve got PTSD and the stress part lowers your immune system” she seemed happy with that

Didn’t tell her the reason for the cPTSD or that her chain smoking in the car when I was a kid and not letting me wind the windows down was the main cause. But I didn’t end up with her saying deliberately hurtful stuff and slamming the phone down either, so it feels like a win on points.

October 5, 2024 at 3:23:09 PM

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Oof, but yeah, I know what you mean by the points.

*Side eyes own relationship with mother

Love & hugs x

i’m so glad the work I’m doing with my therapist has let me accept that I can’t change her and just need to create distance. That’s made these interactions a lot less frequent

I'd created a lot of distance, but recent events have closed that gap again.
I really need a therapist!

It’s been transformative for me, I’m in the middle of my second 26 week set of EMDR sessions and it’s helping me wirh everything so much

@BethanyBlack @PetraPhoenix EMDR is one of those things that instinctively I distrust but several very smart people I know and love (you included) seem to be doing well on it.

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@BethanyBlack @PetraPhoenix generally though, big yes to therapy. Passed a message indirectly to Shaparak for being a big proponent of it which helped me go for it.

hi how you doing today,am new here