Some musings on men with softer voices

I'm trans masc and my voice is often heard as more "feminine" even though I've been on T for years. It happens all the time, but mostly on the phone. I don't mind my voice though.

Aside from the queer male community being a very common place to hear men with softer voices (which is wonderful), there are also many men raised exclusively or primarily by women and other feminine people, that have softer voices, even if they're straight. This doesn't necessarily mean their voices aren't "deep", but it means when it comes to speaking, they carry themselves in a more cordial and cautious way. They're not interested in being the loudest or the "deepest".

If a guy has a soft voice, I feel more comfortable around them, because I think they've taken an important step towards dismantling toxic masculinity:

They're actively combating the notion that posturing is necessary (and normal) to be a "man". This in turn breaks the idea that everything is a competition to be the man. It rejects the notion that you need to project power in every way, even in the way you speak.

For that reason, and many more, it's OK to not do voice training if you don't want to. It doesn't make you less of a man (or any other gender). It doesn't make you less trans. It doesn't make you less valid.

You sound fine.